how do you like to/to be punished

[ides162536]

i wouldprefer to/to be punished fairly hard with a lot of sting. That is why i think prefer a slipper/cane/tawse compared to the paddle/hand. i havent actually being punished for a long time so i dont really know what is better.

[kiwi]

hi ides and welcome.........merry christmas and a happy new year.........and hope you have fun here in the new year:)

[ides162536]

thanks kiwi same to you have a good one!

[sammie]

Where is the category that says, "Would like to have a first spanking"...and red being my favorite color, too. :(

Not having that option, I chose number two; if I ever have one, I might as well have something to remember. :)

Merry Christmas one and all...

sammie, the unspanked ;)

[phillip]

poor sammie, if only you lived a bit nearer I would have loved to give you your first spanking. Still there must be some lucky person who lives nearby, who will do the honours.

[Ritchie]

Originally posted by sammie
... I chose number two; if I ever have one, I might as well have something to remember. :) That's the spirit. Start as you mean to go on, with a damn good Number Two ! ( And it couldn't happen to a nicer girl )

-R

[ides162536]

sorry i should have rembered that considering that i also havent been spanked.

[jolie]

I have voted for the main option (til it stings) however, I would add that although I don't want blisters, I like to be spanked THROUGH the stinging stage (I wriggle like mad during that bit) but once out the other side - I can take for a lot longer.

After that, I like to get a dose of some kind of leather implement - getting past the sting, is (for me) essential to being able to go on to these other implements.

I can cope with a cane far better if I am burning red hot before hand - although it still stings like mad!

In fact, reading back over what I have just written, I think I should take up macrame instead

:confused: I must be flaming mad!!!!:eek:

[Sandra]

I like to be spanked hard enough for it to hurt, that is part of the fun! I am not sure if the blisters you refer to are on the spankee's bottom or the spankers hand!

These days I most definately prefer the cane, there is something so special about the bite and sting of the cane!

[irish_girl]

I'm with you sweetheart.....I live in Berkshire

[WiseOwl_UK]

Tramlines following a caning, I am happy with. Bruises following a hard spanking or paddling are also OK. A spanking / CP / punishment is supposed to hurt... but I am not comfortable with physical damage to the skin, that leaves blisters, cuts or bleeding. That's not my scene... but it should hurt ;)

WiseOwl

[Mark H]

I am still quite new to this scene. But I have an idea that much as the best curries are not always those that set your mouth on fire there is more to a good spanking than a stinging bottom.

[Mark H]

Hi Paul

I am glad some else thinks along lines that I do.
Might I suggest put forward the follow 'scale'

Korma (very mild) great for beginners like a little more than pats
Bhuna (a little hotter but with some interesting flavour) like a good hard spanking or slippering.
Madras (getting hot) like the strap or paddle
Vindaloo (Hot, reserved for special occasion when I am feeling brave) like the cane.

There are also the Pall and Tindaloo but these are very hot! Here would have to leave it to others to comment both in terms of curry & spanking!

Regards

Mark H

[Ritchie]

I like the curry analogy a lot, but I wonder if spanking deserves it’s own scale of severity, like the Beaufort or Richter scales. Here’s a suggestion:

1. A few pats on the bottom over clothes
2. A moderate spanking, underwear left in place
3. A bare-bottom spanking which leaves the flesh pink
4. A hard bare-bottom which leaves the flesh blotchy red
5. A whacking with a leather paddle or light strap
6. A whacking with a regular strap or tawse, or a light caning
7. A hard tawsing, or moderate caning
8. A firm caning which leaves short-lived red lines, or a moderate hairbrush whacking
9. A hard caning which leaves lasting ridges, or a hard hairbrush whacking
10. Severe application of the cane, birch or wooden paddle

Now, I’m sure other members will disagree with the relative positions of the various implements, but what do you think of the format ? (I considered adding accompanying vocal contributions from the recipient, perhaps on the next version.)

I thought it would be fun to develop this as a group effort.

-R

[jolie]

a good idea there Ritchie!

Would beg to differ over number 7 as sometimes a hard tawse can be pretty rough on the behind and equals a bit more than a light caning:(

It would be nice to see some input here!

[Ritchie]

Paul,

If you'd like to 'run with' this, then please be my guest.

As you've probably gathered, my posting above was the result of ten minutes' at the PC while nursing a cold on New Years Eve rather than anything born of extensive scientific research.

I'm happy to have started the ball rolling, and I leave the rest to you. I still think we should call it the British Spanking Severity Scale, however.

-R

[Snowy]

hi ... please e-mail me ... we may have something in common

snowy

[naughtinicki]

have to say Richy..........after reading your scale .........I like the lot.......starting at No.1 and working through to No. 10.

as jolie says going through the sting..........from the build up of all the others

[Dragon george]

Got to say I like it very hard (Hard the Better) With the Dragon cane..............Only If the caner IS EXPERTLY ,,,,,as it is longer & heaver than a standard cane:cool2: :cool2:

[vrun]

May I just propose another scale?
So I think that everyone has his/her own feelings.
One thinks that certain spanking is fair strong, another one will describe it as mild or torture.:confused:

Let's put scale according marks (doesn't matter which device was used - hand, cane, hairbrush, paddle, birtch, belt, etc):
1) very mild spanking with no marks;

2) mild spanking - pink bottom;

3) mild/moderate spanking - reddish to red bottom;

4) moderate spanking - red-crimson bottom;

5) modrate/severe spanking/paddling/caning/whipping - bruises afterwards;

6) severe punishment - life-time mark after...:(

[roddy9uk]

I would definitely go for the moderate! I don't MIND being left with a few bruises..honourable wounds and all that..but I don't go for that or see them as necessary...

[vrun]

Actually I think that spanking less than moderate (red bottom) can't be call spanking.
But more severe is too much - it's for pleasure!:)

[heljonarl]

When I was at school I was punished with a slipper ; plimsole ; ruler and cane. I was never naked but the pe teacher used to spank me on my bum with his plimsole with me wearing only thin white shorts ( our standard pe kit ). Only the head was allowed to use the cane and each time I received it I was fully dressed. I had to 'touch toes' and the standard caning was 'six of the best'.

Today I prefer to be nude and to be spanked/ caned on my bum. The cane does hurt lots and my way of dealing with this is to lie down . I do enjoy being hit with a ruler on both my hands and my bum.

No one day passes without me thinking about being punished. I was fortunate in that I was married for 25 years and my wife would punish me in whatever way I chose. She always said she didn't like punishing me !!

Since my divorce it has become more difficult to be punsihed and I find the internet to be so useful

[fawn]

I would like to be spanked over the knee on my panties first. with a paddle...moderate first....then panties taken down and spanked on the bare moderate to somewhat hard. I would also like to be bent over the bed, table, i.e., bare bottomed and paddled moderate to hard until I cry. fawn

[wimpuk]

likes a few marks and bruises that when touched after give a pleasant reminder of the session

[Ivor_Sorebottom]

Always to my naked bum and by a female spanker. I love OTK but also like to be secured over a bench. I like the flatter implements such as the paddle. Have difficulty with the cane as I hate its sting - I need more practise. One thing I am clear about is that I like it to hurt as I feel cheated if it doesn't.

[wavelength72]

Hi Everybody, Just to add my 2p, I'm definetly not into paddy-cake spankings, but a hard hand on my backside followed by the hairbrush or a wooden spoon...well let's just say I like that in a BIG way!!! Now to find that special lady who can do that!!! Cheers, Wave/wave

[marjorie]

I don't mind the lines after a caning or marks from tawsing but there is no way I'd be blistered or end up bleeding. Not into that in any way. Make it hurt but don't do any damage is what me and my spanking partner believe.

[Archie]

Don't know where this old one appreared from ...

but I voted anyway... I voted for reasonably hard....

as I always felt a regular meal is better than a rare feast :rofl

[GREY eyes]

I'm with you sweetheart.....I live in Berkshire

Sounds appropriate for girls in Berkshire <grin>

[ScotFanatic]

When I am spanked for punishment, I need to go well beyond stinging to feel contrite, but I would stop short at blisters. I prefer the strap, but am usually punished with wooden paddles that leave me very bruised for a week. This precludes spanking for the rest of the week, too, which leaves me feeling an unnerving mixture of invincibility and being out of control (or not being controlled). So unless I have been very naughty, I prefer painful spanking that do not leave bruising so another spanking is always an option.

[Amsterdamer]

It's always with a sting, not a blister, in our spanking play.
Blisters come after a long walk, not a spanking.....

[kayie88]

so i cant sit for an hour or so at lest

[corealus]

it's got to sting otherwise what's the point. not into blood or cut skin or even near it. you don't drive flat out ALL the time, do you?
and ides, if you need a spanking, obviously for scientific research, let me know :wink

[Chris0605]

it should hurt and leave marks but not blisters.

if it doesnt hurt, it doesnt work!

[Pulse]

I discuss spankee's expections and limits, I also ask for feedback some hours later. Purely from my point of view I like to spank hard and get a reaction, but its about achieving mutual satisfaction.
I can get as much satisfaction from a spankee who can only take a light spanking and "suffers" as a spankee who can take almost anything I can give them without showing any emotion.
In many respects its the bottom that is in charge rather than the Top.

[hotbot99]

i like to have my behind warmed up with a leather paddle starting with light strokes gradually getting harder until i am squeaking and wriggling,then given the cane again starting lightly and getting harder until i beg for mercy....any offers??:)

[yvains]

I think I'll have to go with the audience, Chris.

[cassie_darling]

so everytime I sit for a few days I remember to behave myself!:noidea:


But built up gradually - i am not a whack me to tears and watch me sob brat - despite what people might have seen/ heard.



I also admit I have been converted to the cane somewhat - unbelieveable I kno!:bolt:





:first: caz

[sweetpea]

So it is enjoyable for both of us. It isn't about taking as much as he wants to give out - I have had some hard sessions from a couple of people here and ok, it was nice at the time, but looking back, I could not and would not continue to play at that level.

I like it fairly hard, with lots of toys, etc. Funny that sometimes I can struggle with a hard hand spanking and other times sail through it. I can also usually cope with leather toys and whippy canes more than more heavy toys and thicker canes, but this isn't always the case. I like to be pushed but within my limits, not the limits my partner is willing to inflict. Luckily I now have a partner who understands this, and we are a good fit.

I don't feel the need to be sore enough to spend the next day on my tummy. Been there, done that. Not for me, thanks.

sweetpea x

[rosya]

I like it hard enough so that I can feel the sting and the heat for a good few hours after, but, not the deep painful bruises where it stops me doing my job because I can't sit comfortably for the next 3 days!!
Sometimes its just nice to get a handspanking with half hour of sting without the need to go through the implements and other times I feel the need to be pushed thru my limits and properly 'punished'. Of course, like most spankees it is a requirement to see the handprint/cane/paddle mark after.

[subd]

I like to be spanked hard enough for it to hurt, that is part of the fun! I am not sure if the blisters you refer to are on the spankee's bottom or the spankers hand!
These days I most definately prefer the cane, there is something so special about the bite and sting of the cane!
Good girl to bad girl: "It's hard to be good,really."
Bad girl to good girl: "It's got to be hard,to be good!":yo:

[Artery]

Most of these answers cover....it Soooooooooo depends on the spankee, her mood, your 'relationship' with her...there is no one answer.

[SoundandVision]

Nothing like having Rosy give me a good blistering on her birthday









:fish2: soundyy

[badboyeg]

would definitely prefer option two lol, now just gotta find someone to spank me :frown2: