Hello - I'm 'spank curious'

johnnythehand · **Hello - I'm 'spank curious' -** 08-07-2006, 13:27

Hello

I've never posted here before, but I must admit to being more than a little 'spank curious'. I often fantasise about meeting up with a younger women (I'm 41 and single) putting her over my knee and spanking her bare bottom. Where this urge came from I don't know, but I suspect its always been there in one form or another, lacking only the opportunity, the time and the place.

The thing is ... I've never actually carried out my fantasy, thinking of it as a dark secret. I did once mention it to a previous girlfriend, and she thought about it for a while but told me, 'That's not my scene'. I certainly wouldn't describe myself as 'dominant', and I'm not really interested in CP (though to a certain extent I can understand it). My interest only revolves around the lighter side of OTK play. Using implements doesn't really appeal to me either: I'm very gentle by nature, which is again why I've never understood my (so far very private) interest.

I suppose I'm looking for feedback and/or advice. I would like to try an OTK session, but I have no idea where to begin. How do I begin? Later on I'll ask myself, 'Do I even want to begin?' There must be 1,000s of people out there just like me, but I'm not sure if spanking could - or should - form the basis of a relationship.

What's really curious is that a friend of mine said - quite out of the blue - 'I think you're the dominant type! You want to whip someone?' I suddenly felt naked: she was wrong, but not far off! How strange that something like that should be apparent to just one person ... as far as I know. She also said, 'You're like a gay person who hasn't 'come out yet'. Right again: sometimes your friends can see more than they let on.

Bye the way: thanks for producing this site. I've just left a vanilla dating site where the people seemed a lot less articulate than some of the 'posters' on here. Many thanks for reading.

Whirly · 08-07-2006, 13:50

Life is too short not to try out something that you have in mind. As long as it is legal and doesn't hurt anyone else. Go for it.

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Originally Posted by johnnythehand

I'm not sure if spanking could - or should - form the basis of a relationship.

The above comment will no doubt start off the "yes it will. No it won't brigade. Just take it as a might be. There are many posts concerning that around the site. My take on it is that some people just expect too much out of the scene. I wish them luck, but many get very dissapointed over it.

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Originally Posted by johnnythehand

sometimes your friends can see more than they let on

Your friend seems to have you pretty well worked out. But does she really have it right or just tried to shock a confession out of you.

How about talking with her further?

johnnythehand · 08-07-2006, 13:53

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Originally Posted by Whirly

How about talking with her further?

Hey - Thanks for the advice. Yes ... Suddenly that seems like a good idea. I'll just have to wait until she comes back from Norway!

roddy9uk · 08-07-2006, 13:56

Boring advice I know..but..

Why don't you trot along to a munch or party near you and see if you still feel the same after talking to real people who really do spank/get spanked?

roddy

Whirly · 08-07-2006, 14:12

Good advice Roddy. I so wish that people would just go along to a Munch. The only thing that gets bitten at a munch is the food. I still try to understand why so many people are a bag of nerves and find it so hard to go along.

Your fantasy of meeting up and spanking some lovely young lass, is shared with many men that are about to go through the male menopause

I can't say that I have the same fantasy about young men. In fact I'm not that concerned if the person I play with is a man or woman. From personal experience I have found it more enjoyable playing with another woman. Funny old World innit

peterley · 08-07-2006, 15:08

Very excellent advice go to a Munch, I did some 3 years ago and never looked back, soon started going to spanking parties.

Peterley.
Never rest when the cane is best

johnnythehand · 08-07-2006, 23:49

Hi again

Thanks very much for the advice. I'll look into going to a munch (though I would be nervous). You may wonder why, and I suppose you're right ... It is kind of irrational to worry about meeting like-minded people.

John

Iona · **The First Time -** 09-07-2006, 00:04

The first time with most things is scary. I went to my first party some weeks back and everyone was friendly and welcoming. In fact I met someone there who I knew from his teasingly stern posts and he couldn't have been sweeter.

Caneum · 09-07-2006, 03:43

Quote:

Originally Posted by Whirly

Good advice Roddy. I so wish that people would just go along to a Munch. The only thing that gets bitten at a munch is the food. I still try to understand why so many people are a bag of nerves and find it so hard to go along.
Your fantasy of meeting up and spanking some lovely young lass, is shared with many men that are about to go through the male menopause

I can't say that I have the same fantasy about young men. In fact I'm not that concerned if the person I play with is a man or woman. From personal experience I have found it more enjoyable playing with another woman. Funny old World innit

Not Quite True Dear Whirls::::: Only food get eaten agree to that with a pinch of salt at/on occasions at location we both love to munch. and my fantasy is a real one and not with a lovely young lass but with a woman with a nice shortened skirt and of course the reason is? "now known I ain't another woman" lol.... and oi to end wiv what's this ere bit about men 'n menopause

qtπ · 11-07-2006, 14:40

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Originally Posted by Whirly

Good advice Roddy. I so wish that people would just go along to a Munch. The only thing that gets bitten at a munch is the food. I still try to understand why so many people are a bag of nerves and find it so hard to go along.

Well, I can figure out from your posts what a "munch" is ... but not where and when ... or if they ever happen anywhere near Leicester.

Enlighten me, someone.

Thanks.

Iona · 11-07-2006, 14:56

In the top left hand corner of the site home page is Site Navigation. Click on Forums. Then go to Events. There are official ones that you pay for and free ones as well. Hope you find some in your area!

roddy9uk · 11-07-2006, 14:56

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Originally Posted by qtπ

Well, I can figure out from your posts what a "munch" is ... but not where and when ... or if they ever happen anywhere near Leicester.
Enlighten me, someone.
Thanks.

If you look under "free events" on this site you will get a fair idea where some of the munches are regularly held. I believe "Informed Consent" also list such things. As to being near to Leicester I suppose that does depend on what you call "near". Most of us have to travel some way quite often to get to places.

Of course you can simply pick a suitable pub near you, set a date, announce it on here and wait to see who turns up. You may have a lonely night..you may end up with quite a few new friends.

roddy

BFU · 11-07-2006, 15:48

Informed Consent also has a very good events calender which covers the country.

qtπ · 11-07-2006, 16:50

Thanks, people!

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Originally Posted by BFU

Informed Consent also has a very good events calender which covers the country.

Oho! Leicester ... first Sunday of every month.

* does the happy dance *

Hey, this newfangled "internet" thingy turned out to be a good idea after all ... my regards to Sir Tim Berners-Lee.

spankoz · **Spanking Prospecting -** 12-07-2006, 15:27

Our page : www.spankoz.com/spanking_prospecting.htm has a few suggestions . Remember that with most members of the opposite sex doing is better than asking , but see the page first . An old military saying : " It is better to seek forgiveness than seek permission " ( does not work in the Old Bailey , unless you dig up Rumpole to represent you ) .

Spankoz

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johnnythehand Registered User johnnythehand has no status. Status: Offline Posts: 3 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: UK	Hello - I'm 'spank curious' - 08-07-2006, 13:27 Hello I've never posted here before, but I must admit to being more than a little 'spank curious'. I often fantasise about meeting up with a younger women (I'm 41 and single) putting her over my knee and spanking her bare bottom. Where this urge came from I don't know, but I suspect its always been there in one form or another, lacking only the opportunity, the time and the place. The thing is ... I've never actually carried out my fantasy, thinking of it as a dark secret. I did once mention it to a previous girlfriend, and she thought about it for a while but told me, 'That's not my scene'. I certainly wouldn't describe myself as 'dominant', and I'm not really interested in CP (though to a certain extent I can understand it). My interest only revolves around the lighter side of OTK play. Using implements doesn't really appeal to me either: I'm very gentle by nature, which is again why I've never understood my (so far very private) interest. I suppose I'm looking for feedback and/or advice. I would like to try an OTK session, but I have no idea where to begin. How do I begin? Later on I'll ask myself, 'Do I even want to begin?' There must be 1,000s of people out there just like me, but I'm not sure if spanking could - or should - form the basis of a relationship. What's really curious is that a friend of mine said - quite out of the blue - 'I think you're the dominant type! You want to whip someone?' I suddenly felt naked: she was wrong, but not far off! How strange that something like that should be apparent to just one person ... as far as I know. She also said, 'You're like a gay person who hasn't 'come out yet'. Right again: sometimes your friends can see more than they let on. Bye the way: thanks for producing this site. I've just left a vanilla dating site where the people seemed a lot less articulate than some of the 'posters' on here. Many thanks for reading.

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roddy9uk Supporting Member roddy9uk has no status. Status: Offline Posts: 7,771 Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: North Lincs	08-07-2006, 13:56 Boring advice I know..but.. Why don't you trot along to a munch or party near you and see if you still feel the same after talking to real people who really do spank/get spanked? roddy

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Whirly Waxes Lyrically Whirly is Whirly by nature Status: Offline Posts: 8,795 Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In a place where men are men women are women and sheep are nervous	08-07-2006, 14:12 Good advice Roddy. I so wish that people would just go along to a Munch. The only thing that gets bitten at a munch is the food. I still try to understand why so many people are a bag of nerves and find it so hard to go along. Your fantasy of meeting up and spanking some lovely young lass, is shared with many men that are about to go through the male menopause I can't say that I have the same fantasy about young men. In fact I'm not that concerned if the person I play with is a man or woman. From personal experience I have found it more enjoyable playing with another woman. Funny old World innit If freedom is outlawed, only outlaws will have freedom Be who you are and say how you feel. Because those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter

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peterley Registered User peterley has no status. Status: Offline Posts: 495 Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: east sussex	08-07-2006, 15:08 Very excellent advice go to a Munch, I did some 3 years ago and never looked back, soon started going to spanking parties. Peterley. Never rest when the cane is best

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johnnythehand Registered User johnnythehand has no status. Status: Offline Posts: 3 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: UK	08-07-2006, 23:49 Hi again Thanks very much for the advice. I'll look into going to a munch (though I would be nervous). You may wonder why, and I suppose you're right ... It is kind of irrational to worry about meeting like-minded people. John

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Iona Supporting Member Iona is taking a blurry look at things Status: Offline Posts: 4,933 Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Essex	The First Time - 09-07-2006, 00:04 The first time with most things is scary. I went to my first party some weeks back and everyone was friendly and welcoming. In fact I met someone there who I knew from his teasingly stern posts and he couldn't have been sweeter. . With freedom comes responsibility Report to me after class

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Iona Supporting Member Iona is taking a blurry look at things Status: Offline Posts: 4,933 Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Essex	11-07-2006, 14:56 In the top left hand corner of the site home page is Site Navigation. Click on Forums. Then go to Events. There are official ones that you pay for and free ones as well. Hope you find some in your area! . With freedom comes responsibility Report to me after class

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BFU Registered User BFU is looking for a suitable spankee Status: Offline Posts: 4,243 Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: east midlands, england	11-07-2006, 15:48 Informed Consent also has a very good events calender which covers the country.

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spankoz Registered User spankoz has no status. Status: Offline Posts: 21 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Australia	Spanking Prospecting - 12-07-2006, 15:27 Our page : www.spankoz.com/spanking_prospecting.htm has a few suggestions . Remember that with most members of the opposite sex doing is better than asking , but see the page first . An old military saying : " It is better to seek forgiveness than seek permission " ( does not work in the Old Bailey , unless you dig up Rumpole to represent you ) . Spankoz Last edited by spankoz; 12-07-2006 at 15:51.